There’s a great deal of truth to this article. I was that self-pitying “nice-guy” for a long time. I can’t say that I figured all this out on my own and decided to make a change. I happened upon a different path to self-actualization: become responsible for someone else. It’s amazing the personal development you can accomplish when the alternative is failing to support a spouse and children, either monetarily or emotionally. And it really drives home the lesson that kindness and goodness and generally being a worthwhile human being all involve action, not just intentions. As Thich Nhat Hanh says: “My actions are my only true possessions”.