I think I should point out that my last two posts, the one regarding codependence and the other regarding dominance, have absolutely no relation to each other, in my mind at least. You can draw connections if you like, but they came back to back only because they’ve both been on my queue of things to write about for awhile (the codependence one much longer than the other) and I was in a writing mood. So I was just trying to bang out entries while the mood lasted.
I can see where there could be connections between the two, and perhaps it’s subconscious synchronicity that I wrote them both at the same time. Frankly though, I don’t see much in common between my dom side and the “monster”. There are completely different feelings and thought patterns associated with them. The dom side is associated with feelings of caring and careful attention as much as with self fulfillment. The feelings associated with the “monster” are just ugly immediate self-gratification. Perhaps my sensitivity is essential to both, but beyond that I don’t see much of a connection. There’s a difference between ferretting out what someone needs in order to reach a certain mental place, and finding the right buttons to push to get what I want out of them.