From http://www.personalitytype.com/jyt/intj.html:
* Be an attentive and respectful listener.
* Appreciate my competency and creativity.
* Give me plenty of privacy and time alone for me to pursue my interests in depth.
* Try not to pressure me to share my feelings before I’m ready.
* Be honest and direct about what you need.
* Above all – respect my independence and need to live my life according to my own standards.
Thanks to chibitig1 for the link.