I am tempted to say that the conventional wisdom, and much of the popular literature, concerning relationships is full of shit.
Don’t try to change the other person, they say. Rather, seek compromise.
But we define ourselves through our actions. And compromise implies a change in our actions. Therefore, compromise is change.
Not that change is necessarily a bad thing. But people should call it what it is. We are seeking to change each other. No more and no less.