I hold two (seemingly) mutually incompatible philosophies of life.
Philosophy One: True happiness in life comes from giving. You will never find fulfillment until you are able to give, freely and without thought of return. Only then will you have abundant life, and you will find that the more you give, the more you have to give. Focussing outwards is the key to joy.
Philosophy Two: In order to take care of others, you must first take care of yourself. You cannot simply sit and take life as it comes and expect happiness; you must reach out and grasp for what your heart desires. You can’t control everything, but as much as it is within your power it is your responsibility to yourself to seek out your bliss. Ultimately you shortchange others as much as yourself if you fail to live up to your full potential out of fear of causing hurt.
I believe both of these. Deeply, sincerely, wholeheartedly. I know people of people who have built full, satisfying lives on both principles. And they are, as far as I can tell, completely incompatible.
Has anyone had any success reconciling these disparate points of view?