An IM conversation with exthesuccubus prompts me to think about what I need in order to be content. Leaving out long-terms I want to accomplish before I die, what do I need for day-to-day happiness?
- Personal space. Secure, reasonably spacious, undefiled by any one else’s stuff or notions of organization.
- Time alone. Around an hour’s worth a day, and, from time to time, a block of time from 6 hours up to a whole weekend spent without anyone disturbing me or making me feel guilty for ignoring them. This is when I obsess on personal projects.
- Outdoor space. I need to be able to walk outside and smell clean air and see green things and birds and small mammals. Private green space is better.
- Hills/mountains. Believe it or not, a large part of my level of happiness is directly attributable to how far I have to go to find a hilltop where I can look out over miles of (non-citified) land, receding away into the distance.
- The means and freedom to occasionally jump in the car, or hop on a plane, and take weekend trips on a moments notice.
- Sufficient spending money to, in a given month, buy a few CDs or articles of clothing or books, go out to a nice restaurant, go to a movie or a concert or a play, buy a friend something nice, and pay for drinks at clubs.
- Comfortable furniture.
- Cleanliness. I don’t need an immaculate house, but I need it to be uncluttered, I need surfaces to be free of grunge and stickiness, and the air to be free of odors and mustiness.
- Someone to cuddle at night.
- Friends I can have deep intellectual conversations with, friends I can just play and be goofy with, friends I can share my deepest heartaches with, friends I can cuddle with.
- A rainy-day fund to provide a sense of financial security.
- A little leisure time to hack/read/play video games/watch a movie each day.
- No debt (other than unavoidables like car loans and mortgages).
- Sufficient means to provide for the needs and wants (within reason) of the people who depend on me.
- To be constantly learning.
No, I didn’t forget sex, I honestly don’t consider it one of my needs for contentedness.
Yes, I am high-maintenance.
You’re not high-maintenance at all; the things you listed are things that most people would consider “normal” to live a satisfactory life.
I am presuming this list includes things you consider yourself to already have (as opposed to being a list strictly of unfulfilled needs)?
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