This came up in an IM conversation, and I thought it might be useful knowledge to my circle of friends and aquaintances:
In conversation, I only push back (i.e. argue) when a) I respect the person I’m arguing with; b) I care about the subject matter; and c) their point of view interests me. Otherwise I don’t waste the energy. Don’t back off when I push back. If I don’t want to talk about it, or I consider the subject closed, I’ll tell you.
More generally, I never adopt new points of view or venture into new territory without first testing it. If I’m being critical of something on LJ, don’t be too surprised if I’m advocating it a few months down the road. I can only progress once I’ve satisfied my questions and concerns.